Nice or Kind? “Meditation” and Mini-Quiz

A friend comes to you with a problem and they are very upset. You reply:

An acquaintance in your friend group is clearly struggling with a drinking problem. You have vacationed with them and almost consider yourself getting into bestie territory. But at the last get together, they got sloppy drunk and you’ve seen it before. You and the others in the friend group are starting to talk about it behind their back. You don’t like the secrecy so you say:

You are at a crosswalk and an older person is having trouble crossing the street in time. You are running late for an appointment. You: